What is it with people and their expectations? Expectations between partners, in a friendship, between parent and child, colleagues, manager and employee and so on.
What we expect a lot from each other And how difficult we make it this way. I realised recently that it causes more damage than it brings in. So why do we do it automatically? I think it's because of our upbringing, society and the huge impact of social media platforms.
Because think about it, what would it be like if we just no expectations have more? And if we assume that everyone acts with good intentions. What would relationships be like then? If you ask me, a lot nicer.
From living with confidence
Living without expectations and from a position of complete trust That we do the right thing, just from 'self'. That doesn't mean you can't think anything anymore. Because when we disagree with something, we can just talk about it, exchange ideas. Instead of making the other person do what you expected of him or her beforehand. I call it wanting to control each other.
Why not turn it around? What do I expect from myself in the relationship with my partner, parents, friends, colleagues or child? How will I in this relationship?
How much more beautiful the world would be if we not always wanting to project their own truth onto othersbut to listen sincerely and grant each other things. In this way, we can all work towards a better world, little by little. And that starts with yourself.
Experiment: Letting go of judgement
I have a fun experiment for you. For at least a week, in every conversation you have, try just to listen, without judgment. Try to listen to the other person in a focused way, without immediately passing judgement in your mind. If that happens anyway (we are human beings), let go of your judgement and try to be open-minded. Focus entirely on the content of the conversation. Please wait, you can always respond.
And to be honest, I found it quite difficult myself. At the same time, this experiment made me aware of my full head and my absence during conversations. What a shame! Since I learned not to judge I feel calmer and experience less tension in my shoulders, neck and back.. I still try to be aware of it in every conversation. Can you do it too?
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